What to do right after the engagement

Before you post a photo on Instagram, call the people closest to you. Parents, siblings, friends — they want to hear it from you, not see it online.

There is no single right order. There is no wrong one either. It is your story — tell it the way that suits you.

If someone takes offence at hearing later — that is not your problem.

An engagement is a reason to celebrate. You can throw a small party for those closest to you, or simply go out to dinner, just the two of you.

You can first simply enjoy being engaged.

If you like, you can do an engagement session. It is a good moment to meet the photographer you will be working with on the wedding day. And to have photographs from this time.

Once the first euphoria has passed, you can start thinking about the wedding. But take your time.

Start with a conversation about how you imagine your day. A big reception or a small one? In the city or in the countryside? Summer or winter? These are not final decisions — they are a starting point.

Make a moodboard. Gather the photos you like — simply gather what resonates.

Think about the budget. It does not have to be an exact figure — a rough one is enough. And remember that things can always change.

An engagement session is a good way to get to know your photographer before the wedding. You will see how they work, how they get on with you, whether they suit you.

It is also a chance to feel more at ease in front of the lens. On the wedding day you will already know what to expect.

You can use the photos on your invitations, in the guest book, on a display board. Or simply hang them at home.

The guest list is one of the harder tasks. It is worth starting to think about it early.

Make a list of everyone you would like to invite. Do not think about the budget yet — simply write everyone down.

You can shorten it later. That is normal. It is your choice — you do not have to feel guilty about not inviting everyone.

Remember — this is your day. Invite the people you truly want beside you. The rest will understand.

The venue and the date are often the first things people ask about. But you do not need them straight away.

If you have a venue in mind — check which dates are free. If you have a date in mind — look for a venue.

It is best to do it together. Go for a walk around the places you are considering. See how you feel there.

Take your time. Better to choose well than quickly. The venue and the date are the foundation — everything else is built on them.

Good DJs, musicians, bands and venues are often booked a year, sometimes two years ahead.

If you already have a date — it is worth starting to look. Meet a few people, look at their portfolios, listen, talk.

More important than experience or price is whether you get on with them. They will be with you all day.

Trust your instinct. If something feels off — keep looking. Better to find someone you feel good with than to choose under pressure.